Choosing what guides us.
As many of us sit with our journals this morning, with family, our relationships, our brokenness and yet others still are holding their head nurturing their body and brain from a night of drinking and debauchery, a giant relief remains for all of us left standing after last years wars we’ve fought…”We’ve made it to 2026! ” Did we ever think we would get here after such a tumultuous, politically and morally disastrous year? Yes we did with faith in our hearts, strength in our spirit and so here we are standing.
2025 was a year of expansion and growth and one that continually challenged our spiritual selves. It was meant to. I want you to reflect on this as you continue to read because 2025 was asking you if you were in it for the long haul. 2025 was meant to challenge your everything so you could find your North Star.
It was meant to bring you closer to who you are. .. spiritually. Not materially. Not externally. So then, the questions remain for all today… whom are reflecting – what do I wish to accomplish for myself this year? Who do I want to be moving forward and what does that life for me look like?
Many of us for the last few days if now weeks leading up to this moment, have been reflecting on this past year and precisely about the rugged paths we have walked. We have also thought with great warmth in our hearts about the things that brought us joy. And many like me who found herself homeless at a pivotal moment of entrepreneurship, stopped to ask “how did I/we get here?” Many of these questions saturating our minutes as we aimed to simply survive.
So as many of you take pen to paper this morning, or if in the quiet calm of last night’s mind before the chaos of the clock striking midnight…. or before that New Year’s kiss, under your breath — you whispered your New Year’s resolutions— which in actual spiritual reality, are your desires, and intentions….
…..what you were subconsciously asking yourself, Spirit and the universe is “How am I going to manifest these? How will this unfold in my life?”
And during this time of reflection and resolution many of us will ask ourselves…. what is it that mattered most to me this past year? And, it is common to say family. Although yes— family can be a source of deep joy, belonging, and meaning. It can remind us where we come from and, at times, who we are at our best.
But family can also be a place of deep wounding. It can be complicated, strained, unspoken, unresolved. For some, it is a place of love. For others, a place of obligation, silence, or pain. And for many, it is both—often at the same time.
So we move forward with resolutions and intentions of “we want health …. a healthy family, stronger relationships, more harmony at home.” These are beautiful intentions. But they are also intentions that rely on forces outside of ourselves—on other people’s readiness, capacity, awareness, and willingness to meet us where we are.
This is where we often stumble.
Family cannot be our North Star.
Not because family doesn’t matter—but because it is external. It is relational. It is dynamic. And it is not something we can steer alone.
A North Star must be internal. It must be something that does not move when others do. Something that remains steady when relationships change, when expectations disappoint, when dynamics repeat themselves.
When we resolve for family before we resolve within ourselves, we place our growth in someone else’s hands. And no matter how much love exists, that is too heavy a burden for any relationship to carry.
This does not mean we abandon our desire for connection, healing, or unity. It means we begin in the only place where real change is possible—within our own alignment, clarity, and integrity.
When you find your own North Star—your values, your inner guidance, your spiritual footing—your relationships naturally reorganize around that truth. Some soften. Some strengthen. Some reveal what was never meant to be carried forward. Some will fall away.. because they have never honoured your truth. And all of that, too, is part of becoming whole.
Family can walk beside you.
They cannot lead the way.
So as we move forward into 2026, I ask you to reflect on this.. on what it means to find your North Star. To reorganize the truth that lives in you.. so you can live authentically, aligning with the purpose and path the Creator intended for you.. this is far greater than a resolution.. it is an exploration, a discovery- an intention to be the most authentic version of you in order to be harmony for yourself first.
Lastly I want you to put your arms around yourself and give yourself a big hug! This is who you will love unconditionally and immensely this year. And, YES…..
Lets acknowledge that there’s something deeply satisfying about making it here. After everything—ideas that didn’t pan out (yet), lessons that arrived uninvited, and a year that asked more of us than it gave—we’re still standing. Wiser. Less naïve. Far less impressed by noise. More ready to welcome in silence and Spirit.
If 2025 was about endurance, 2026 feels like discernment. Fewer resolutions, more knowing. Fewer promises, more power. The kind of year where you don’t hustle for worth—you move deliberately, like someone who’s been around the mountain and knows where the footing is solid.
So here’s to:
- choosing substance over spectacle
- honouring what taught us, not just what worked
- and building from truth instead of wishful thinking
We made it. We have just crossed the five year threshold. And if you are still standing in your power, strength, resilience, integrity, dignity, and now softened in who you are—congratulations! That alone is worth a quiet smile and a strong cup of something warm. ☕
Here’s to 2026—steady, meaningful, and unapologetically real!
Many blessings to all of you!
~ Anita Menotti of Her Divine Path
Read about New Years Eve and The Time of Beginnings here.
